Roles and Values - The conflict!!

When we treat each role as separate, we tend to create separate value systems that would help us be operative in those roles. This is aided by the fact that each role that we execute operates in a different environment, or atleast that is what we are forced to think.

So, we will have a separate value system working at the place of work and have a different value system that guides our actions when at home or doing shopping. A lot of conflict occurs within the human being when different value systems are at work. The result! Confusion, Frustration, Anger and the feeling of being torn between roles. Most of us would like to run away from our work, from the people we assume we love, from homes, from responsibilities and from our own selves.

The root of the present day "stress" lies herein. We tend to ignore the fact that this self created complex value conflict in our roles is the most complex thing that the mind can ever handle. If we carefully take a look at this issue, we can easily understand that the complexity comes in because of our view that our roles are separate and separate value systems are needed to respond to circumstances that each of our role faces.

Because of the spatial and chronological separation of our roles, we tend to assume that the values operate independently of each other. But as said earlier, the roles are rooted in us as a human being. I as a human being am the originator of all the roles that I assume in my life and at the end of the day all the values that I might use to respond to different circumstances originate in me. The instance we realize this truth, the issues that we face will start untangling.